This topic is ultra-important.  If you can define and reach a “deep relationship”, you have secured trust, credibility, and the ability to communicate openly.  There may be a myriad of books on how to create a deep business relationship, yet this creation is a personal thing.  It is based on your connection, or ability to connect with your client.

Above all, a deep and enduring relationship is based on your clients receptiveness and their ability to value a durable personal relationship as well.  When the customer is receptive, this is an area that you can master, and an area that you can profit from.

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Deep, enduring customer relationships are the prize in some sectors of the sales world.  You will not have these with all customers, as an effort is required which goes far beyond the norm.  The objective is to have it with the most important clients.  Remember, if you don’t have a deep relationship with your buyer another sales professional will attempt to gain the buyer’s preference.

What is a “Deep Relationship”?

Before we discuss how to get there, we need to discuss the characteristics of this type of relationship:

• Preference – You receive preference in the buying relationship and buying process.
• A “Business” Friend – You are a trusted confidant with unlimited access to the buyer.
• A Business Consultant – You have knowledge of the customers business that few are privy to, including access to key individuals and information.
• A Social Acquaintance - Activities (sometimes) overlap into the social setting.  You have knowledge of your customer’s social and family situation, and conversely the buyer has a knowledge of your family situation.

This results in a buyer who, given all other issues, prefers to work with you and uses his power, authority, and influence to keep you the vendor to his organization. This status is an asset, and it is not awarded without some effort and history.

Getting There and Staying There

Getting there is a journey and staying there is a matter of being conscious and consistent.  Attaining this position is done over time and with a lot of work and honesty.  Thispreference supersedes other preferences, including racial preference. Only someone with similar status and professional expertise can remove the incumbent.  It can happen if your promises are not fulfilled, or if your organization falls short in delivering.

I have “business friends”, former customers, from my days as a sales professional who have been friends for over 20 years. I still serve in the roll of business consultant in situations when they reach out for help.  These enduring relationships were based on the following activities:

• Give unparalleled customer service
• Be Honest – always tell the truth
• Communicate, Communicate, Communicate – Tell all as early and completely as you can
• Share Information – give the customer updates including industry news, product news, legislative news early and often
• Be the professional
  • Make each contact meaningful and time worthy
  • Be timely in your meetings, contacts, and correspondence.
  • Be the professional

The depth of relationship comes when someone really likes you and understands you.  Some of these components can be included in the business database (such as Salesforce.com, Goldmine, or any Customer Relationship Management database) and some of these things should not be resident in a business database.  It is a compendium of information that is between you and the buyer, and should be treated that way.

Components of Your Customer Profile

Know your customer!  Use a Customer Profile to build familiarity, increase intimacy, and gain preference.

Your Customer Profile should include references to the following items:

Customer’s background/history - The customer’s previous employers, and industries.  Know items such as high school, college (if applicable), and geographic background.  Know the customer’s preferred pro teams and hobbies.

Customer facts (away from the office) - This may start with the pictures on his/her desk.  Know the customer’s marital status, number of children including ages and sex.  Know the children’s high schools and colleges.  Sharing your own information is a start.  Sharing knowledge of this information personalizes the relationship. It is a great start!

Customer Requirements – Use the profile as a repository for any must do’s, or requirements for this customer.  Example – When to call, assistant’s name and particulars, and other valuable information.

Use the information wisely, and consistently.  Within your organization become the expert on the customer and his/her business.

The Relationship Building Process

• Build Trust – Always tell the truth! It is easier to remember.  Avoid stretching it, and avoid white lies. This is extremely important to keep your preference.
• Communicate, communicate, and communicate! – Give difficult information immediately.  Communicate as frequently as is possible and use different mediums, but in person or phone for difficult news.
• Be personal and personable - No one will expect to tell you about them if you won’t discuss yourself. Feel free to show your personality.  Discuss the strengths of your story, as a Black sales professional, he has probably not heard one like it.

As a Black sales professional, relationship building is ultra important, yet doable.  As you start with your current customers, hone your skills with those who you have the best relationship with.  This will pay dividends for the rest of your sales career.

There are few moments that are more critical in your work history than the all-important job interview.  That sixty or so minutes presents you with the opportunity to:

• Make a lasting impression on a one-on-one basis.
• Describe, defend, and promote your employment history
• Showcase your verbal skills and your adeptness at responding to complex questions.
• Prove you critical sales skills while in the process of “selling yourself.”

“Critical” is a fair word here because you only get one opportunity, maybe no more than an hour to do this and separate yourself from the crowd of applicants that are being interviewed for the position.  You must use this opportunity to “sell yourself” while you scale the mountains of questions that the interviewer or interviewers might have for you.

How to Stand Out?

So in the midst of this, your objective is to not only answer all of the interviewer’s questions, showcase your knowledge of the sales process and your product/industry acumen, but also to stand out from other applicants.  Frankly, if you are a Black sales professional, you already stand out! You have selected a career that is challenging, measurable, and rewarding.  It is not the career that is the preference of the lighthearted.  This role is normally relationship-based, requiring an investment of time and effort in the cultivation of deep enduring relationships with buyers of all backgrounds and origins.  Not everyone can do it, and most would not make it to the interview stage, but you are there. Even the buyer that considers himself/herself color-blind recognizes that you’re an anomaly in the position.  Now the good part is that you are a “good” anomaly in that role.  I am serious in saying this.  Absent prejudice, the good buyer is looking for some change or variation from the norm as well.  Here is your golden opportunity. Even some of the most mundane issues about you are new ground for a customer from a different social and racial background.  Questions will flow in search of information about the following:

• How did you get in this business?
• What is your background?
• Where did you go to school?
• Did you play sports?
• Numerous other general interest questions

These questions only lead to more inquiry.  These questions, as banal as they may seem, happen because there is an informational divide in America.  That informational divide then serves as a “curiosity chasm” as well.  No one is going to go into your community to satisfy their curiosity as to how someone so different from them lives and thinks; yet if you come into their office, and hold conversation, everything is game.  Whether you hale from the heart of the ghetto or your state’s most affluent suburb, the curiosity is the same. You can stand out in this positive way, and there are some things that you can do to make this even better:

• Be personable and inviting without getting too personal.
• Know your story and its fine points.  You have license to discuss only what you want made public (because it will be public).
• Always tell the truth (Black Sales Journal 6/30 – Always Tell the Truth). The truth, in the light of its novelty to others is quite enough.
• Know what has made you strong and durable, and …better.

Now, when you know these well, you can begin to weave them into your story as opposed to “tell” them.  You might want to give that comment some thought.  You are the expert on you, and that cannot be denied.  Do you know how to tell your story in a factual, yet illustrative way that captivates and informs?  If you practice these points, you will gain proficiency in doing it, and will benefit from it.

The Value of the Icebreaker

In Black Sales Journal I always speak of the strength of conversation in building a successful relationship.  You are less trying to build a successful relationship during the interview than trying to construct a gateway; there is invariably a brief moment that is the “icebreaker”.  This is not a long interlude, yet a skilled interviewer will use this time to get to know something about the person that he/she is interviewing.  Here is where you get an opportunity to showcase “YOU.” During this time, most interviewers would not approach a subject that is to intrusive, yet will ask you a question like: “What made you decide to get into sales?” or “What convinced a bright looking guy/lady like you to go in to equipment sales?”  I am sure you have been asked a question like that before.  That is the icebreaker, and it is without doubt that is not the question he/she wanted to ask, yet it is the evidence that someone is curious about you, your motivations, and your background.

Remember…Be Personable…

Black sales professionals with tenure in sales have experience in relating their story. There is no doubt that regardless of whether you are male or female, they want to understand more about you.  You can move them from wanting to understand more about you to the point of fascination by disclosing some tidbits of information although never compromising personal information you want to protect. Remember bullet one above.  “Be personable and inviting without getting too personal,” serves as a good motto.  Although interview sessions can be tedious, remember that being interviewed by someone who is interviewing five others is tedious work on their part as well.  It is made more interesting by someone who has a personality, and has points of interest that would probably attract a buyer as well.

You can be that someone.

Master the relationship. Your comments are welcome.