Black Sales Journal

In the August 22nd post (Black Sales Journal  8/22, Improper Racial Comments from Your Co-Workers) we discussed how you might want to consider reacting when co-workers make improper or inappropriate comments.  Co-workers are obviously peers, and your reactions may not have to be measured.  The principals that apply when the individual who makes the comment is your manager or a senior executive may require more calculation and measurement.

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Insensitivity and racism exists, and it is not institutional as it is an individual’s personal problem in most cases.  This insensitivity coupled with a lack of respect for racial differences can be vexing.  When it is not handled correctly, it manifests itself as organizations being called racist, when it is actually a particular (or more than one) manager who is the problem.

No one can predict the source or the timing of these types of comments, we just know that as long as you are interacting, there is a possibility that an improper remark will happen.

These are Not Mistakes!

Everyone comes from a different station in life, and their ability to relate to others is hindered by a lack of understanding others and their sensitivity.  Sometimes, it comes across as being insensitive, sometimes rude, and in other instances, it can rank as downright boorish. The fact of the matter is that many, but not all of these statements represent unadulterated displays of racial prejudice.  Be smart enough to know the difference, as they deserve different courses of action.  Be smart, not oversensitive.

I honestly encountered this during my early years of employment, and quickly learned, as will you, who the source of these types of comments would be.  These types of comment are not mistakes.  They are utterances of ones viewpoints, and in many cases a window into one’s upbringing.  I explain this in Black Sales Journal 12/30/2010, Preference, Perceptions, and Prejudice and Your Employer.

I had an opportunity to cover an issue like this in Black Sales Journal 6/27, Changing Racial Perceptions.   This is one you should check out.   I write about it under the sub-heading “Perceptions – An Example from My Past”.   Frankly, as a young sales professional I did not know what to do.  I was left speechless, and that was the last time.

I don’t care if it is 2011, these comments do still happen.  No one cares about hearing an apology from someone for making the statement when the problem is that someone actually feels this way, and they are your superiors at your place of employement.

Measured Reactions When it comes from “the Top”

When a manager or a senior executive makes a comment that is offensive the other managers and employees who are listening immediately sense the impact of the statement.  Many get uncomfortable, and some want to exit.  Remember this in the examples of actions that I suggest, it is the moment of truth, but the group is your ally.  Groups (the audience to your comment) have a way of being very uncomfortable when someone is singled out, and unjustly aggrieved.

When the comment is made, the audience and you are affected:

• Something wrong has been said
• Someone has been wronged or hurt (You)
• There are witnesses to this wrong, and they are victims as well

It is at this point that your actions are most visible, and most observed.  You cannot avoid the spotlight, and your face will quickly show something is a problem.

Here is what you need to remember:

• Don’t be afraid to show that you are disturbed if you are. You do not have to be stoic.
• Show your maturity by not reacting improperly as you are a professional.
• Exiting the conversation speaks volumes, even more than the suggestion of exiting the conversation when it is a peer. Leaving shows your feelings about the comment, and the commenter.
• Match the gravity of the comment to any verbal response you might have, yet I will guarantee you that if the comment has any gravity at all, an “excuse me” will result in a future discussion, or even an apology in the very near future.

Realistically, any apology may be more for having said the comment rather than feeling those things that compelled them to make it.  An apology or admission that the comment was inappropriate will show that this comment should not have been uttered.

These Remarks Are About Power

When you hear a remark that is improper and inappropriate from a manager it is usually results in feeling vulnerable, at least at that moment.  Factually, you should not accept it even if alcohol is involved.  I mention alcohol, as that is a common excuse. The ”he had too much to drink” bit is not kosher, and any manager’s drinking issue is not your problem.

Trust me, no manager wants to have a discussion with his/her manager or human resources about remarks they make involving race, gender, religion, or sexual orientation to a employee.  What is even more problematic is if they have to have that conversation because there was more than one incident.  Most employers, especially large ones have no tolerance for that discussion, especially after the first time.

The Role of Human Resources

I have had the pleasure of working with some very good HR professionals.  As a manager I recognize their focus on the well being of the employee and their willingness to take a manager to task when it is truly necessary.

If you feel aggrieved by a comment, you definitely should approach HR and frankly tell the story.  This is definitely a situation where “the truth will set you free”.  Advise what was said including the audience, and how that made you feel.  Be factual and not emotional.

There are a couple of things that can happen when you talk to HR:

• The manager might be told to have a conversation with you, perhaps including an apology
• The manager can receive a memo of either admonishment or reprimand.
• There is a possibility of the manager being placed in ‘sensitivity or diversity training’.
• If this is a repeat incident, there could be more harsh punishment meted out including termination.

Intelligently realize that you should only involve HR if you really feel aggrieved and they will help you sort it out, as this is not a trivial matter.  Don’t be thin skinned or you will lose credibility.

It goes without saying that you need to avoid jokes about any of those forbidden topics, and stay “clean” yourself.  Recognize that peers and managers should show you respect, and you should do the same.

Your comments are appreciated.  Write me at Michael.Parker@blacksalesjournal.com.

In the last post we started the discussion, Deepening Your Customer Relationships (See that at the bottom of this page) regarding how to gain customer intimacy.  We talked about the importance of a Customer Profile and the type of information that you could house there.  I had a sales professional write me in the response section and state “…you discussed the Customer Profile, and began to explain it, yet you probably should have given an actual copy.”  I think that person might be right!

I am going to give you a copy of a simple template for the customer profile as well as delve into some ways that you can get the information to fill in the profile.

The Customer Profile

As we discussed last week, this is not the Customer Profile that I expect to be in your employer’s database.  Remember my previous statement about whom you are selling your products and services to.  You are selling to an individual, not a company.  The act of forming the relationship over time is made easier by recording your information on this profile and using it wisely in cultivating and strengthening the relationship. You will see this over time.

Here is the Profile template. It is simple and to the point.  I am attaching it as a PDF.  It will will serve as a guide and can be altered  or be used “as is”:  CUSTOMER PROFILE PDF.  Tailor it to your own usage and format.  Make it yours by including the things that you think are important.  It is a PDF, so you will not be able to edit it, but you will be able to use it as a guide to make a solid customer profile for use into the future.  Otherwise, you will be forced to remember all of these valuable pieces of information.

Getting the Information

I am going to make some suggestions for harvesting the information as well.  Remember these important points:

• Private Information – No customer wants to have a database out there for a vendor’s use which house information about his/her family, his educational background and preferences.  This is your information!
• The Best Source - The best source of information would be the customer.  We will briefly discuss ways to get that it.
• Other Sources - The more information that you can get from sources other than your customer, the less intrusive it will seem.

Breaking the Ice

Your quest for information begins with the act of “breaking the ice.”  You are the quarterback and you will set the tone for the meeting.

I always started off a meeting with a new buyer by creating a relaxed environment.  The normal pleasantries of weather, traffic, and the state of business were beginning topics.

I would then begin to execute the sales call by reviewing our objectives of the day, and laying out a brief agenda for the  meeting.  Once business was completed on the call, I would start a conversation with information about me, and then seek information about the customer.

Who am I?

Information about me - I would allow the quick verbal resume to get slightly personal including where I reside, and how long in the area.  I also included how many children I had, and in most cases where they were going to school.   The verbal resume would include my length of time with the company and my years of time in sales.  My objective was to let the buyer know that:

• I am a sales professional
• I am a person who enjoys what I do.
• I have staying power
• Behind me is a family who is important to me

Yes the quick introduction was purposeful, and intentionally personal. Buyers want to know something about you….something that they will remember, something that they can share.  You will be amazed as how it makes a connection.

Who are You?

Now it is the buyer’s turn.  I am willing to bet if it is a good day, he/she will deliver many of the points in the same fashion as you.  You should take specific note of them as you are now looking through a window that might only be open for a short period of time.

Once they had laid that out for me, I felt comfort in asking if the buyer was a native of the area. Which leads to which school he went to, and does he support the Giants or the Jets, or the Bears or the Packers.  With a laugh here or there, we have covered much ground that I can use later to strengthen the relationship.

My most completed profiles would include favorite restaurants, probably because we had a business meal there, and what the customer enjoyed in terms of alcohol.

The Customer Profile in Action

On a cold December 20th several years ago a customer gave me a gift.  It arrived by UPS, and I was flattered.  I did not think we had reached that level yet but it was a fine gesture that I needed to respond to.  The customer profile showed enough information regarding where he liked to dine as well as his hobbies.  In return I got a modest gift certificate from his favorite restaurant and a fishing hat for his upcoming late spring fly-fishing trip.  This information was from my notes.  That fine former customer still keeps in touch.

As your relationship continues, a business entertainment lunch at a local restaurant will give you an opportunity to further your profile in a more neutral setting.

Don’t Force It

As stated in my most recent post, you need to serve up some of your personality so things can get more personal.  If someone wants to keep it strictly business, you will need hope that over time you can get the buyer intimacy that you seek.  Don’t force it.  Be natural and be prepared to “get closer” in the future once the buyer is reluctant at this time.  As the relationship matures he could be more accepting.

A deep enduring relationship happens when there is an exchange.  Be personal and personable.

Above all know your customers intimately, at least the important ones.  I hope this will provide the start.

Tell me what you think.